Mantus

Masturbation is a complicated issue and one that is very rarely discussed in detail. So I would care to break the ice and attempt to really explore the concept. I decided to split this into a two part series. Part one will explore the mishaps and concerns about masturbation while part two will explore the benefits of the act.

Masturbation is generally good for you. Yet from my experience there are also allot of pitfalls involved. I think the greatest mistake any one could make is to take masturbation for a trivial act. The way you masturbate can drastically change your sex life and the way you think about yourself and your partner. So I figure it would be constructive to analyze our personal playtime experiences and give advice on what to avoid and what to do better.

So share your experiences, things you learned, things to read, things to avoid or just random musings on the negative aspect of the self-pleasing act. If there is one thing I have learned over time is that every one has very different sex lives. Instinct, physicality, habit, thought and spirituality all have strong impacts on a person’s sexual behavior. All I hope to achieve by posting my own perspective of masturbation and having other people post theirs is to encourage people to really explore their sexuality and hopefully find their own answers. I’ll begin,

From my own experience these are some of the problems I have encountered.

- It can become a habit. This is rather problematic in my view because I believe that sexuality deserves thought and attention. Sometimes I find myself jerking off not because I am horny, but simply because it is that time of the evening. In the past I had trouble going to sleep if I didn’t do it before hand.

- When it becomes a habit you start thinking about it less and simply acting on instinct. It’s: load porn – whack off – clean up – and you are doing something else 10 seconds later. There is no contemplation of the act and it becomes almost asexual.

- One of the worst side effects of the experience mentioned is a massive diminishing in the quality of orgasm. It came to a point where I would no longer climax after relieving myself simply because I was so used to whacking off just to cum rather then to enjoy myself. Yes guys, we are able to have spectacular orgasms.

- Another poor side effect is the dreaded loss of lust after ejaculation when you are with a partner. This obviously happens because your body and mind are used to moving on to other things quickly.

- Yet another side effect that comes with a developed habit of masturbation is the urge for instant sexual satisfaction. When you are around a girl and you get turned on your body habitually expects gratification. When this doesn’t happen you suffer the usual side effects of breaking a habit such as agitation and depression. This is often very distressful for girlfriends.

- Masturbation sections often begin with a naughty thought. An interesting side effect of this is the urge to play with yourself after having sex. When you finally get home and think back on the wonderful evening you had you suddenly feeling like jacking it despite the fact that you are totally spent in that department.

- It has become almost impossible for me to climax from receiving oral sex. Despite the fact that I enjoy it in every way it just never does it for me. Though hand jobs get me off a little too fast. I suppose this is because my body is too used to receiving “rough” stimulation.


The cure. The problems mentioned above can be fix. The first thing to realize that your personal sexual life is very closely tied to the sexual life you have with your partners. I began by giving allot of thought to my idea of sexuality and relationships. I realized that I greatly veered away from my standards and my convictions. I started paying attention to my thought process. I was absolutely shocked at my ability to have a hand down my pants while reading about politics! Obviously my instincts had me by the balls.

I faced my demons with porn. I still look at it. But now I don’t just glance at it. I actually look at the girl, look at her eyes, her skin and her shape with my minds eye. I find beauty in those women now where I used to see only my lust. I no longer masturbate to porn.

I learned to enjoy my arousal rather then look at it as an annoyance. I do my best not always respond with physical stimulus but rather entertain myself with further sexy thoughts.

I just started this a month ago. Making up my own rules as I go along. I can’t expect to set myself right in a month after many years of disregard to my sexuality. I am already feeling better about myself thought, more my own man.

I will add more as I find time to write.

Cheers.


Your turn people,