Warning: This is going to be one long ranting post about my sister.
I have never really gotten along with my little sister. She's 4 years younger than me, and maybe that's too much of a gap, who knows...
A few weeks ago I was over at my parents house having dinner. I usually go over at least once a week to have dinner wtih my family and get some laundry done, instead of paying $1.75 to wash and then $1.75 to dry my clothes. While we were having dinner my niece was playing with an extention cord, so to get her to stop my sister threw an old paper towel roll at her. So I, along with my Mom and Dad told her not to throw things at her child, but to get up and take care of her. Then my sister decided to jump down my throat. Basically this is what came out of her mouth: "Don't fucking tell me what to do, if I want to throw something at her I will. Why do you come here anyway? All you do is come here and stay for a few hours, eat and do laundry and then leave. Why bother? Grow up. You say you moved out but you're always here." That's when I quietly got up, thanked my parents for dinner and left.
My sister, who lives at home with her daughter, was telling me, who moved out, that I need to grow up. My parents pay my sisters $365 a month car payment. They pay her car insurance. They give her gas money. My sister has been out of work while she underwent some medical tests (she's fine, anemic) and has gotten disablity. Even before she was out of work, she wasn't making enough to pay her bills, so my parents would pay them for her. They even paid a $600 cell phone bill. My parents aren't made of money. Sometimes they struggle to pay their own bills. My sister does not appreciate all that they do for her. She constantly fights with them. Yells and screams at my Dad all of the time. Basically utterly disrespectful to the people who do so much for her. She does not clean up after her self or her child. She also bought a dog, which my parents told her many times not to do. The dog still is not house trained. It has torn apart a chair in our living room. The rug is one big stain.
The last straw was yesterday. I was away for the weekend and on Friday I called my house to ask if somebody could come and look after my kitten for me. My sister said it was fine, that she would do it. I told her to go by Friday afternoon, and on Saturday and Sunday. She said she would, and if not she would have my Mom stop by. When I got home on Sunday, the litter box was completely full, and the cat had crapped on the carpet twice. I had already planned on stopping by my parents on Monday to do some laundry and drop off a shirt I bought for my niece. When I got there my sister was there, my parents were grocery shopping. I asked if she had a chance to stop by on Sunday to look after Pumpkin. She said that she didn't, that I said she didn't have to. I said, no I did. Then she changed her story, saying that my Mom told her not to go over. Which stinks of pure bullshit.
She started going off on me. Saying that I wasted her gas by asking her this favor. Gas that she didn't pay for, of course. The dog had torn apart the chair again, so there was foam all over the chair and the floor. As usual, the couch was full of clothes, so I asked if my sister could clean up after her dog's mess. She said no, you do it. Well, why should I clean up after her dog's mess? I took the foam off of the chair and placed it on the floor along with the rest. Then she said to me "Pick that up or I'll fucking punch you in the face." She was now standing, fists clenched. I told her that she couldn't bully me, that it's not my responsibility to clean after the dog.
She screamed some more, so I just got up and sat with my niece, who was obviously scared about her mom screaming. My sister then picked up the dog by the collar and lifted her about 2 feet into the air. I could hear the dog gasping for breath as she did that. I told my sister not to do that, that the dog is getting hurt. That she shouldn't have gotten the dog if she couldn't take care of her, and is only hurting her anyway. She again told me to shut up before she kills me.
At this point I just wanted to leave, but I already had my laundry in the wash and I wasn't sure how to stop it without wrecking the machine. My parents then got home and asked how my trip was, how the drive was and such. The noticed that I was visibly upset, shaking and crying. Asked why. My sister was in the kitchen so I just pointed in there. She then came out and started saying how I came in the house and bitched at her for not taking care of my cat. That she was having a bad day. Just screaming. I couldn't take it. I got up and gave my mom and dad a hug, asked if my Mom could bring my laundry to me sometime and left. As I was leaving I could hear my sister screaming at my parents all the way to the car. Saying how she's had a bad day with her daughter and the dog and how she's going to lose her job and such. So she takes it all out on me.
My Mom just called me and asked if I wanted to come over for dinner. I declined. I do not feel comfortable in the house I grew up in anymore. I don't want to be around my sister. I don't want to see her, I don't cant to speak to her. I cannot stand the way she treats me and everyone else in my family. And I don't think I should have to put up with it.
I know I'll have to though. My grandparents are coming into town soon, for 3 weeks. I'll have to see my sister then. But I don't want to.
Am I being irrational in not wanting to see her? Am I being silly? Was I wrong in some way? Have any of you gone through anything like this? What did you do?
If anyone read through this whole thing, thank you. It's a lot, I didn't realize I wrote that much. Thanks again
