kulrblind

Since you're obviously asking for advice here, you're probably not surprised you're getting so much of it.

The 'pride factor' of the ring in question -- any ring, really -- is a combination of how much she enjoys the design of the ring, and what it means to her, as well as how she feels about being engaged to you. Do what you can to make her happy with the ring, and she'll be more than happy when she knows you love her enough to give her something she'll appreciate, not just the 'standard rock-and-metal-symbol-of-engagement.'

You may be surprised at what you learn about rings, diamonds, and metals when you do some research (for instance, platinum has been the product of a lot of hype lately, and isn't always a better choice than, say, 18k white gold). Also, if you check out some gemologists and custom ring makers, you'll find that their prices are probably better than those you'll find in large stores, or online (*gasp*) - maleficent has already alluded to this. Find out all you can about this ring, get as many pictures, descriptions, etc as you can -- and then take it in to someone who does custom work, and who'll work with you (or the two of you, which really makes it even more meaningful to her).

In my own case, we went the "custom" road, but only because we weren't finding what we wanted elsewhere, or we were finding that there wasn't enough selection in diamond clarity and quality to warrant the prices posted at jewellery stores. She had an idea of what the ring would look like (a sketch, which never left the shop), but didn't know when it would be ready, what it would cost, or what it would look like in white gold. Long story somewhat short: she loved it, she loved the process, and with the custom bands we had done, she continues to wear the engagement ring. Also, I didn't break the bank.

Good luck working all of this out. You'll find something that works for both of you, I'm sure.