Need some relationship help
I'm really not good at talking to the general public about personal matters, so bear with me a little and thank you for even reading this.
So i've known my girlfriend for about half a year, we have been going out just less than two months and i find myself completely in love with her.
Everything was going almost too smoothly until last week. she agreed to help set me up with a job at the bank where she works, but she had some inhibitions about it (what if we break up?) which i haplessly dismissed (thinking that she'd get over it).
later i was feeling kind of lonesome, romantic and inspired, so i wrote somewhat of (what i thought was) a generic love story about a couple who works together then breaks up.
she kind of avoided talking about it friday night, the next day i finally decided that she hated it... ("so did you like it?" "i havn't decided yet")
we spent some time together on saturday and i noticed that she was acting subtly different, maybe distant.
sunday and monday we didn't really talk, except online (we don't really like phones). and i was feeling really miserable, getting the impresson that she's bored of me.
i talked to some of my female friends who all said i should talk to her about it. so i did, i found out that she really did have some problems with the story and taht the prospect of working to gether with me really did bug her. so i told her i'd drop it. she als o said something like "you're too much of aromantic sometimes, and that's just not me, not yet anyway".
Surprisingly after that things were alright for a while, tuesday she called me in the morning and asked me to visit her on her lunch break, so we ate lunch and had a pretty good time. I was relieved.
Wednsday i found out she'd just had her period, so i attributed everything to PMS, considering she acted normal that evening.
Today (well, yesterday) i visited her at work (which is not a problem) and she was acting very different again, as if she were absorbed with something else, as if something were bothering her.
I just talked to her tonight for a while and she was basically very bitchy and angry, so i poked her a little until in response to "what's buggin' you?" she said "just something someone said, don't worry i'll be fine after i talk to [my best friend](guy) about it".
i don't think anyone could blame me for prodding a little bit and asking her why i was not good enough to talk to, or why she couldn't tell me what has been bothering her.... i think it's only fair i should know...
in any case, it turned into a fight... the details are kind of foggy right now, but it was about the basic issues of trust, etc. and towards the end i asked her why she thought i was bringing it up and she said "because you love me more than i could ever love you".
i don't know if she was serious or trying to tell me what she thought i wanted to here, or sarcastic (any of which are possible, if you know her) but it really hurt.
We do have a date tomorrow evening, but i really don't know what to do.. i'd appreciate any advice.
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