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it really does have to do with the dynamics of the relationship rather than the issue of living with someone of the opposite sex. that's simply the reason everyone has mixed reviews.
personally, i've lived with both. my most recent arrangement i lived with 4 other guys. but i've also lived with a house full of women at one time. i actually shared a room with her, and it was great. we didn't have any crazy drama or pent ups between us so it was super comfortable, and i think that made all the difference.
she would talk about guys she thought was cute and wanted to go out with, i'd talk about girls i knew. it was cool because we were able to get perspectives from the other sex on things, we'd have seinfieldian discussions on dating and stuff, it was cool. going to parties together worked really well as well. since we shared a room we had a lot of late night discussions, just sort of a cool bonding experience.
ironically i was the only one that ever cooked anything, which wasn't a big problem for me. i feel weird if i make something and just starting grubbin' down by myself in front of the tv. both of us were fairly neat about it, occaisionally things would get out of control but we'd make sure it didn't last too long. mutual respect, i suppose.
i definitely think complications arise when there's romantic notions involved (unless of course, you fell in love and then decide to move in together, which is a completely different aspect) or when personalities clash. i mean, as mature adults the only difference is hygiene products which is not a big deal. if you get freaked out by panties or tampons, you're not mature enough to live with the opposite sex. anything else can be chaulked up to personalities rather than a fault of living with the opposite sex.
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