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Originally posted by ratbastid
She was honest with him. Then she was honest with you. Where's the cheating?
Here's what you ought to look at, my friend. What deep-seated insecurity has you cling so possessively to girls like this? Somewhere way way down you don't believe you deserve her, or you're trying to prove something to somebody (a parent maybe?) by keeping her. Most macho "Woman MINE!" chest-thumping has its roots in fears, anxieties, and insecurities. Get to the heart of that, and the "old self" is REALLY a thing of the past.
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like i said, i said i told her it was 'kinda' like cheating...if i had strongly felt it was cheating, i would probably have broken up with her right then...i just feel like telling him feels like it was wrnog..redgirl and a couple of others seem to agree...what purpose did it serve? and knowing guys in general, its very very possible he'll continue to put hte moves on her, knowing she's got possible interest in him...so, it might not be cheating explicitly, but i dont feel like it was the right thing to do, to tell him...as redgirl said, if i were in a crush, i'd just wait till it buried itself..waht is to be gained by confessing..(if u plan to stay in ur current relationship)
i've also already admitted that i used to be insecure, i felt i've grown, but i'm sure its still there in amounts, and i'm trying not to be...in fact, i'm rather proud of the improvement i've made since hs (take that with how much ever salt u need, after all u dont know me, and only i can judge how much i've improved)...now, if i really wanted to keep her so bad...i wouldn't be seeking advice, i'd just keep her...after all, she has told me that she wants to stay together...and in fact, after reading most of the responses, and thinking things through even farther, i'm now almost sure that we're breakign up...and i'm feeling ok about it, feeling its the right decision for me..
thx for your thoughts tho