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Originally posted by balefire88
i generally believe that you should not think of other ppl like that when in a serious relationship (it was decently serious). However, i can't say for sure that i wouldn't crush on someone (who knows how much control we've got over that?).
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Crushes are normal and healthy. Even in long-term relationships, you're both
going to have crushes on others.
You can tell a healthy relationship by the way the couple takes those crushes into the bedroom and turns them into fantasy dirty-talk material.
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Worse, he told her he liked her recently, and she replied back that she liked him too, though she wants to stay together w/ me... I said it was kinda like cheating that she told him, and she felt like she was just being honest, and that she thought it would help her move on...would you guys consider it cheating?
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She was honest with him. Then she was honest with you. Where's the cheating?
Here's what you ought to look at, my friend. What deep-seated insecurity has you cling so possessively to girls like this? Somewhere way way down you don't believe you deserve her, or you're trying to prove something to somebody (a parent maybe?) by keeping her. Most macho "Woman MINE!" chest-thumping has its roots in fears, anxieties, and insecurities. Get to the heart of
that, and the "old self" is REALLY a thing of the past.