balefire88

My first post..my room mate showed me this place once, and i generally just like reading here.

I've been going out with my gf for 1 year and 3 months. About 3 months ago, she tells me that she's 'slightly' crushing on this other guy. They are in the same major, and tend to have a lot of classes together, they're also Teachign assistants for the same class, he lives on her floor (i live 1.5 miles away). He likes her too (i knew he did b4 she told me about her feelings). I didnt take this very well, since i generally believe that you should not think of other ppl like that when in a serious relationship (it was decently serious). However, i can't say for sure that i wouldn't crush on someone (who knows how much control we've got over that?).

Aniwaiz, she said she'd get over it, saying her crushes only last a little while, and i decided to let it go. Just a little while ago, she tells me she's still crushing on him. Worse, he told her he liked her recently, and she replied back that she liked him too, though she wants to stay together w/ me... I said it was kinda like cheating that she told him, and she felt like she was just being honest, and that she thought it would help her move on...would you guys consider it cheating? and its not like he's exactly gonna back off now that he knows she has a crush on him too..

I know she wouldn't cheat explicitly on me, but when i think about the situation (which is prolly every few days or so, since i can't see her this summer, it might be more on my mind during the school year) it bugs me a lot.

I used to be kinda possessive during my first relationship, (current one = 3rd), and i used to worry about all my ex-gf's guy friends, and physical contact they had...but since then, i've grown past that..but this guy makes my blood boil..at times i wanna ask her to stop hanging out with this guy if we mean anithing to her, but i always back off cause it feels too much like the old me which i dont like..plus, i dont know, i worry that it'll just make her wanna hang out with him more..

half the time, i feel like she's being really stupid, and i should just move on, but its summer, and i wanan atleast see her (late aug) b4 i make such a decision, and i do still care for her, and miss her too...(feeling kinda pathetic)..

just wanted to tell someone, couldnt really tell my best friends, felt too ashamed, like somehow i wasn't good enuf for her, so she crushed on some other guy..appreciate any thoughts