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you love someone as they are, not as what you envision they will be come or fear of what they may become.
that said, be patient.
remind her that she's got to make efforts to make changes *IF* they are real things she can affect. If not, then she needs to tell you when she's venting and complaining so that you just support and be there for her as a LISTENER and NOT a FIXER.
It's not an easy task but you have to be patient with yourself.
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I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not.
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