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thebeat · 07-08-2004, 08:10 PM

Here is some background on the situation.....

I started dating my girlfriend a little over 5 years ago, I was a senior in high school and she was a freshman in college. We were each others firsts, etc.. About 3 years ago...she cheated on me with a guy she worked with while I was on vacation. I could obviously tell me that something was wrong when I talked to her, and on my 600 mile drive back home, she proceeds to tell me what happend, I become extremely emotional and our relationship ended at that time. This guy she cheated on me with was the complete opposite of myself....slept around alot, had a kid, an overall redneck....During the breakup her college roommate and I discussed the situation on a weekly basis, while I was attempting to get information. Being as emotionally distraught as a I was at the time, I called her house and we began a heated argument, her mom got on the phone and completely bitched me out, after I told her she had no idea what was going on with her daughter because at the time that was the case. Eventually we got back together and have been for 3 years now....of course the marriage issue has come up and as far as im concerned she is the one for me and after her brief relationship with mr. redneck she realized that I was the best thing that has happend to her.

Sorry for the long back ground but here is the current situation...

Together we're great....but her Mom, Sister, and Brother hate me because of what I said when we broke up, so I ruined a great relationship with her folks. I come from a very loving home with great parents who have been married for nearly 25 years, and their familes (moms and dads) all have a great relationship. the other calls the inlaws mom,dad etc... and I've always wanted that to be apart of my marriage and I know i'll never have that relationship with her mom and that truely bothers me. She is one of those people who just can't get over it...true southerner...

Do I just need to wake up and realize that If I marry this girl its just because we love each other and nothing else matters? I guess I just feel like I wanted that whole inter-family expereince, and obviously I wont.

Sorry if this sounds extremely cluttered and confusing, hopefully my point will come across.

07-08-2004, 08:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
thebeat Insane Location: Deep South	Relationship Dilemma Here is some background on the situation..... I started dating my girlfriend a little over 5 years ago, I was a senior in high school and she was a freshman in college. We were each others firsts, etc.. About 3 years ago...she cheated on me with a guy she worked with while I was on vacation. I could obviously tell me that something was wrong when I talked to her, and on my 600 mile drive back home, she proceeds to tell me what happend, I become extremely emotional and our relationship ended at that time. This guy she cheated on me with was the complete opposite of myself....slept around alot, had a kid, an overall redneck....During the breakup her college roommate and I discussed the situation on a weekly basis, while I was attempting to get information. Being as emotionally distraught as a I was at the time, I called her house and we began a heated argument, her mom got on the phone and completely bitched me out, after I told her she had no idea what was going on with her daughter because at the time that was the case. Eventually we got back together and have been for 3 years now....of course the marriage issue has come up and as far as im concerned she is the one for me and after her brief relationship with mr. redneck she realized that I was the best thing that has happend to her. Sorry for the long back ground but here is the current situation... Together we're great....but her Mom, Sister, and Brother hate me because of what I said when we broke up, so I ruined a great relationship with her folks. I come from a very loving home with great parents who have been married for nearly 25 years, and their familes (moms and dads) all have a great relationship. the other calls the inlaws mom,dad etc... and I've always wanted that to be apart of my marriage and I know i'll never have that relationship with her mom and that truely bothers me. She is one of those people who just can't get over it...true southerner... Do I just need to wake up and realize that If I marry this girl its just because we love each other and nothing else matters? I guess I just feel like I wanted that whole inter-family expereince, and obviously I wont. Sorry if this sounds extremely cluttered and confusing, hopefully my point will come across. __________________ random Last edited by thebeat; 07-08-2004 at 08:24 PM..