I'm going to ask this question and leave out much detail about our relationship. I was going to explain everything, but I think that takes away from the root of the problem here, 'fundamentals'.
Simply put, we're both 21 and have been dating for almost a year. We're both madly in love with eachother. I'd like to say that I've got more experience with past relationships, however she's very bright when it comes to giving love.
We've been fighting lately. I'd like to think that I'm very rational when it comes to arguing. I think she's been more emotional rather than rational, but this could be wrong (what else would you expect from a beautiful girl!
) After a long weekend spent together and a few arguments, I think these problems are spawning from the typical 'needy' bug.
She's living at home now for the first time since high school and is hating it. We're headed to San Diego to finish up college, so there is a light at the end of this! However, most of her friends are back in San Diego and througout, so we're always seeing eachother. This is my rationale about why she has become a little needy.
My question is this: What is the best way to deal with this? We discussed this for the first time tonight and it went pretty well. I'm glad she was open minded to hear me talk about her and how I feel she's changed. My concern is that this neediness probably can't change overnight, and I don't expect it to. However is this a personal thing that I shouldn't expect to change? I hate forcing people to change, and I don't believe that one should hang out, waiting for a natural change.
Thanks for any insight guys. I'm very interested in making this relationship work out, however as far as my persona goes, this issue could become pretty dangerous if it wasn't tamed correctly, however I don't want to hurt her and change her if I'm not in the possition to.
Take care
-T