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Do you think you need a professional? It doesn't sound like you think you do, it sounds like you understand the problem in a nutshell...you let soneone else's words get to you. I think raeanna74 has some great advice. I used to get in violently nasty fights with the ex whenever I'd call him about something outrageous he did or didn't do. I was given the simple advice "don't call him", no matter how angry you are, don't call him. Simple, right? The first time was so hard I actually had to physically put the phone down 5 times not to call. I had gotten into the bad emotional HABIT of reacting to his crap and had to break it. The next time was also hard, but not so much so. Its now gotten to the point that he lives 2 doors away from me and I don't even know he exists. I deal with his crap like it is, crap...it gets tossed.
The old nursery rhyme is true:
"sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me". Don't let peoples' comments to you "hurt" you. If you think they are valid, deal with that; if not, its just a name. The first time you don't let a comment hurt you will be hard to do, but believe me it does get easier. You don't lose your peace by someone else's sin, just your own. Keep working on those "awesome" days...you're experiencing growing pains kiddo.
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