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This guy is so very clearly playing you and it's good to see you're not totally falling for it.
I'm with everyone else who recommended you leave this guy. I'm sure he really does like you, I have no reason to doubt that. But like Alladin Sane says, he's got a girlfriend who he's known for years, so he's got that comfort. He's got you, a new woman who shares a spark with him. He's got the best of both worlds and he's milking you both.
What he's doing isn't a cute way of escaping something bad. It's cheating on his girlfriend, lying to the both of you, and loving every minute of it. He's trying to get you wrapped around his finger and by posting your thoughts here you've already proved that he's hasn't suckered you in just yet.
His girlfriend is leaving for three weeks and as soon as she's gone, he turns around to you. If a man's partner leaves for three weeks he uses that time wisely, to better himself, have some free time (still as a man in a relationship) or simply feel sad until she gets back. He doesn't turn to his 'girl on the side' for those three weeks and then run back to his girlfriend when she returns.
Trust all of us on this one, please. Don't give him any more ultimatums. Ditch this guy right now, before his girlfriend leaves for her three week trip. Don't bother telling his girlfriend about the two of you, that's their business. Ditch the guy before she leaves so he knows he's not going to be spending those three weeks with you. Ditch him and find someone that appreciates you as a woman, and not as a woman on the side.
And don't make him choose between you and the girlfriend either. I don't know her, so I can't say if she deserves him, but the fact is that you don't, and right now you've got to worry about yourself. If you gave him an ultimatum and made him choose between you or her, if in the very unlikely event he'd make any decision (I suspect he'd draw it out as long as possible) and he chose you, like a few others have said above, he might do it again in the future. It's not a guarantee that he will or that he won't, but is it really something you want to risk?
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