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I recently ended a young relationship (in part) due to his selfishness (in bed, among other areas). From the first time we were together, I had to practically beg him to do things, outside of the pre-intercourse 5 minute oral and the actual sex itself. I had no qualms about obliging his requests, but began to resent the fact that after I blew him to satisfaction, I couldn't even get a hand between my legs for a few minutes.
Openness and communication are key - but what can you do if you've stated your plea and still, he/she doesn't change?
I chose to end it, because I won't stay with someone who acts as if his needs are more important than my own. The last time I saw my ex, he actually gave me his blessing when I joked about going upstairs to do the job of pleasing myself (we'd been watching porn and I'd gone down on despite the rude way told, not asked, me to). He was out the door soon after.
I think if you care about someone, their enjoyment is part of yours - they're interconnected. If a girl can't tolerate any more penetration, then she should assist in her guy climaxing in another way, and if a guy comes first, he should be sure his girl comes, too. That's just how I see it.
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