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Originally posted by la petite moi
In my opinion, I think you should talk to her about your concerns. I doubt she is TRYING to be selfish, and I'm sure she'd like to please you. I know that sometimes I get dog tired during/after sex, and I just can't keep on going.
About the orgasm thing, it sounds more like a comfortability thing to me. This is funny, but my boyfriend just gave me my first orgasm from him last night...and we've been dating for almost 14 months.
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Well...congrats?
And I know she doesn't mean it...it's just that half the time she didn't seem the least bit apologetic or just simply didn't realize that I might want to experience what I had given her.
Actually, come to think about it...this happened more when she still wasn't able to orgasm...at which case she would adopt the reasoning that if I can't get her off (she still doesn't even know how to get herself off) then I didn't need to get off either.
It just seems to me that this selfishness defeats the purpose of sex...which is, in my eyes, for the partners to each please one another, essentially. At the same time, I feel like I'M going against the grain by complaining about it.
And she would have never gone for it if I had just decided to finish before her. She would have been too angry to realize what she was doing wrong. That's why I just explained it to her.
Edit: To kjroh...
I've already discussed and worked around the issue with her...though I think she's still thinking it over. The problem with oral and handjobs is...if she isn't in the mood shes not going to want to do either. And that's the problem, isn't it. Unwillingness to compromise. It's not fun getting a handjob or bj from someone who doesn't want to be doing those things either
Also...she's the type of person who gets caught up with the fact that her own juices are still on my penis when it comes to oral after sex and she's actually a little reluctant to kiss me after I go down on her (though usually a little wipe and a good screwing is all that's needed for her to come around. On top of that, her wrists tire easily.
Plus...so far she can really only orgasm from penetration & the use of a vibe combined. I do kind of wish we could do things other than sex now and then.