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the thing is, it's obvious he doesn't know what he wants. he's afraid, unsure, and simply confused. and justifiably so. i wouldn't put an ultamatim out there "WHERE ARE WE GOING IN 6 MONTHS?!" he likely, honestly does not know. bring it up from time to time to make sure he's still trying to figure it out, but it's useless trying to pry an answer from him he doesn't have.
i'd stick around, but don't think of it as an investment. an investment implies loss- you put 6 months in and get nothing back. enjoy the 6 months. realize it's another 6 months of happiness, of pool nights and staring at the stars and holidays and snowboarding trips and whatever else. enjoy it while you have the time. just don't commit fully since he's obviously not ready to. keep your mind open, and don't throw yourself in thinking it will last forever. if it DOES, great! if it doesn't, just don't be caught unprepared. nothing really prepares you, but it stings a hell of a lot less if you acknowledge beforehand that it's a possibility.
when me and my ex split i had NO IDEA it was coming. everything was BEAUTIFUL. everytime i shyed away from committment she seemed offended, and so i assumed she was more committed than i was. and so i jumped in. i gave her everything, and i assumed it would last forever. had i known there was a remote possibility of it ending i think it would have hurt a lot less.
but regardless, would i have traded the last six months in? hell no. these memories are mine, and mine forever. regardless of what happened at the end, it was fucking amazing while it there. i have no regrets.
ever seen eternal sunshine of the spotless mind? kind of like that.
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