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When the choice is not yours to begin with, it is harder to come to terms with the events. Having someone who loves you doesn't make the hurt that happened go away completely, ever. We play and replay what's happened, how we should have changed it, etc. It's a search for closure, for understanding what went on. You're normal, not a bad person. I'd be more concerned if you didn't give it a second thought. Contact with the ex is possible if you can keep it on a friendship level. For me, at least, it is much preferrable to remain friends than lament the loss forever. To call or email and just say 'hi' to a (now) friend is fine. You might find he does the same thing. Good luck.
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