Generally speaking, if you bring specific issues to the table, you'll get specific advice. OTOH, if you post general gripes, you'll get some people agreeing, some people disagreeing, and most people saying, "Hunh?"
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Originally posted by jthm
Okay I'll give an example if this will help. So I use to have feelings for this relatively good friend of mine I think more than 2 years ago now. We seem to have this way of dipping in and out of a tight friendshsip. Anyways this was two years ago and I was commended on being straightfoward but also thoroughly rejected, life goes on. However my present girlfriend, this good friend and I all hang out in the same crew now. Now whenever possibly my girlfriend must bring up that I used to like her and ask me if I still like her, what it was like back then and why I am not still into her. Now this is a sore spot even if it was two years ago and I am absolutely over it but I see no need to continue raising the subject. I've been with said girlfriend for over a year now, I'm in fucking love, I have gone above and beyond anything I had ever done for previous girlfriends for this girl and yet she can't seem to quit putting her goddamn nose in my past.
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Look, rather than focusing on how much this annoys you, try and get in her head about it. Why would she keep bringing it up?
Here's why: she's insecure in your relationship. It took lurkette about 10 years to finally get that I love her and I'm not going anywhere. We'd been married for about six years by that point. What she would do is
continually test me, bringing up old relationships or reasons why I shouldn't love her.
Yes, I got annoyed by it, but after a while I could hear it for what it was: she just needed my reassurance that I loved her. And after enough time, she could finally hear that.