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Couple of things. Definitely let her go. If she doesn't want to be with you then you can't force her. Don't be the ex that is always getting in the way making it harder for her to move on, while also keeping you locked into trying to get her back. You had your chance and you made mistakes, learn from them. Next girl you meet don't make those mistakes again. Use this experience to your advantage. Make it work for you instead of against you.
Next, definitely be happy alone. You have to be able to be happy with yourself in order to have a good relationship. You shouldn't have to be worried about being on your own. It's not a bad thing. If you are always trying to get someone because you can't be by yourself then girls will pick up on that. And it can seem a little desperate. So just take some time and be on your own. Open yourself up to meeting new people and just take things slow. Make some new friends, get out on the scene with the friends you have left and get back into the groove of just having fun. You won't have all these insecurities if you can focus on building yourself up. When that happens then you will end up meeting someone, and this time, you will know not to make the mistakes you did with this one. The second you start taking a partner for granted is the second things start to go down the wrong path. If you try and control someone then it isn't going to work. If the relationship is solid things will work out for both of you without you having to tell someone what to do.
Just take some time and get back to basics. Learn from your mistakes. Wipe the slate clean. Get happy with yourself and your solo lifestyle. Move on.
Good luck I hope it goes well.
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