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gorilla · 06-13-2004, 09:22 PM

What would you do if you were in love with your best friend? Would you pursue a relationship with them and put your friendship on the line, or would you play it safe to make sure you dont lose that friend?

This is what goes through my mind for 23 hours a day. I live in a little emotional bubble and I dont let anyone in. The only person that I have ever let in is my current best friend, I'll call her Tiffany because, well, thats her name. She has been either a very close friend or my best friend for the past 5 years or so. She used to have the same problem, she was in love with me for so long but I didnt want to risk the friendship so I didnt go forward with anything. Yeah, I wanted to but I would have been lost without her as a friend. We did date for awhile and she broke up with me about 6 months ago. I was crushed because she was my best friend and my girlfriend. I still cant even look at another girl. She told me that she still wanted to be friends, and we are very close again. I get really upset when she is with other guys or even mentions other guys because I dont think that any of them can offer what I can. As far as I know, she hasnt been on a date in a while and she seems to be sendin me those vibes, yknow? For instance, she has called me up the last 3 nights because she wanted to hang out. We dont hang out just us two, I bring some friends and she brings friends and we hang out as a group. But we are alone sometimes, she calls me when she is sick or had a bad day and I will try to cheer her up or go to her house and spend time with her. She does walk all over me, but I love every minute of it so its okay. Now, its been about 4 months since Ive said anything to her about "us." I'm pretty sure that she thinks I am over her because when Im around her I dont act like stuff bothers me and I will comment about girls walking on the streets... normal things a guy friend would do. Its been 6 months since we've broken up and I havent gotten over her an ounce. I think that I am pickin up on vibes from her, but it might just be my hopeful imagination. She hasnt been on a date in a while, and all the guys she has gone out with since me weren't worthy or something because they have either faded into oblivion or she wants to tie them to a tree and play a good game of pinata with them. I dont know if I should try yet again to take our friendship to the next level or if I should sit tight and wait for more definative vibes. What would you do, given this situation?

I think I've made up my mind to talk to her about it sometime later this week, but that gives me 3 - 5 days to get some other opinions.

I say I live in a bubble and then I vent online for anybody to read... oh, well.

06-13-2004, 09:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
gorilla Insane Location: USA	pursue or play it safe? What would you do if you were in love with your best friend? Would you pursue a relationship with them and put your friendship on the line, or would you play it safe to make sure you dont lose that friend? This is what goes through my mind for 23 hours a day. I live in a little emotional bubble and I dont let anyone in. The only person that I have ever let in is my current best friend, I'll call her Tiffany because, well, thats her name. She has been either a very close friend or my best friend for the past 5 years or so. She used to have the same problem, she was in love with me for so long but I didnt want to risk the friendship so I didnt go forward with anything. Yeah, I wanted to but I would have been lost without her as a friend. We did date for awhile and she broke up with me about 6 months ago. I was crushed because she was my best friend and my girlfriend. I still cant even look at another girl. She told me that she still wanted to be friends, and we are very close again. I get really upset when she is with other guys or even mentions other guys because I dont think that any of them can offer what I can. As far as I know, she hasnt been on a date in a while and she seems to be sendin me those vibes, yknow? For instance, she has called me up the last 3 nights because she wanted to hang out. We dont hang out just us two, I bring some friends and she brings friends and we hang out as a group. But we are alone sometimes, she calls me when she is sick or had a bad day and I will try to cheer her up or go to her house and spend time with her. She does walk all over me, but I love every minute of it so its okay. Now, its been about 4 months since Ive said anything to her about "us." I'm pretty sure that she thinks I am over her because when Im around her I dont act like stuff bothers me and I will comment about girls walking on the streets... normal things a guy friend would do. Its been 6 months since we've broken up and I havent gotten over her an ounce. I think that I am pickin up on vibes from her, but it might just be my hopeful imagination. She hasnt been on a date in a while, and all the guys she has gone out with since me weren't worthy or something because they have either faded into oblivion or she wants to tie them to a tree and play a good game of pinata with them. I dont know if I should try yet again to take our friendship to the next level or if I should sit tight and wait for more definative vibes. What would you do, given this situation? I think I've made up my mind to talk to her about it sometime later this week, but that gives me 3 - 5 days to get some other opinions. I say I live in a bubble and then I vent online for anybody to read... oh, well.