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Defintely encourage professional help.
As for how to approach him, sometimes a nice card, putting it in writing, where he doesn't have to look at you when the words are "said", makes it easier. If you choose that route, gently take his hand when you give him the card and say something to the effect of: "I have some important things to say to you because I care so deeply -- I put them in writing hoping it would make it easier for you and me." Maybe offer to leave the room while he reads what you wrote, or give it to him right before you part, or even offer to sit with him while he reads. Just an idea. Btw, he is lucky to have you -- you obviously care deeply and are a good person.
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