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Trying to help a friend
Ladies, i could really use your help here. Long story shortened very much, there's this guy i'm getting close with at one of my jobs, we get along great, although i'm not sure if i want a relationship with him, he's a blast to hang out with and i'm more comfortable with him than i've been with a guy in a long time. Anyway, things were getting close between us, intimately, however, he stopped, and i originally thought it was because of me. Found out, he was sexually abused when he was a very young child and now has problems with intimacy. I was very surprised (pleasantly) to learn this because it means he trusted me enough to tell me something this important.
I want to be there for him, as a friend first and foremost because he's a great guy, a genuinely nice person. Do you have any suggestions on how to best help deal with this? Should i try talking further about it, should i pretend like he never told me? I'm not sure, i want to tread lightly but still let him know that in trusting me, i'll do what i can to help as well.
Sorry it's sorta vague, i'm not sure how to describe it really. Thanks for any thoughts you may have.
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