Well, I think I need more information in order to answer the question. Can you not do both because one of the parties (work/SO) is unwilling to share with the other party? If you can't have the job because the SO is jealous or unsupportive, then I would say she's not the girl for you.
Now, getting back to my advice. Having learned the hard way, the key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse above all other things. There is no room for compromise in this premise. If there is ever a choice between spouse and something else, spouse comes first.
Secondly, make your spouse your best friend. This comes through listening, not talking. It is your job to learn everything you can about your spouse and therefore creating communication, empathy, trust, and support. You need to create common hobbies and common friends.
Third, do not hang around with divorcing, separated, divorced or bitterly single people. They will create a wedge for you because their complaining is infectious.
Finally, obey the well known saying: You have never seen a tombstone that read: Here lies Jim - he was a really hard worker. In this day and age, you need to work to live, not live to work. If your dream job prevents you from marrying your dream girl, THEN IT'S NOT YOUR DREAM JOB.
I think you already know what to do, you just want to hear it from someone else.
