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I heard a really amazing thing a couple weeks ago. This amazingly inspiring guy told me that he promised his girlfriend two things when they started out together.
The first thing he promised was that he would never know her. See, when you know someone, there's no room left for surprise. Worse, the better you "know" them, the less interested you actually are in them, the less you're trying to get in their world and understand where they're coming from. He promised never, ever to know her.
Second he promised that he wouldn't ever need her. See, when a relationship is based on need, there's no room for want. A relationship where anybody needs anybody has resentment, frustration, and disappointment built right into it. He promised never, ever to need her.
I'm very clear that this is an amazing relationship, one worthy of emulation if any is.
I suspect that your problem is that you "know" your girlfriend. So take on for a few days that you have absolutely no idea who she is, and get interested in her. Just see what that does to your feelings about her.
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