Yes, it's hard. Be there for her, but don't enable. Tell her, "you know what my opinion is," if she asks for support. And discuss what making the right moves should be. And be ready to support her if she makes the right moves. And don't stop being her friend if she refuses, but don't support her in her self-destructive path, either.
I knew a women I really liked, who also really liked me, and who was in a bad relationship where she was taken advantage of. I knew we could be together, but I didn't just step in and take her away from the guy. I waited for her to leave him on her own, and gave her all the support I could. It took a couple of tries on her part, but she finally did. _Then_, a few months after it was all settled, we started going out, and we finally married.
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