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Originally posted by ARTelevision
Keeping in mind there's nothing that can be done about someone who won't help him or herself, what I do is talk directly about the problem when I address the person. I am responsible for what I say and I'm not about to pretend that problems do not exist when they stare me in the face.
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I agree with everything above this post, especially this.
That said, there's also a point in time where I have to step away from the situation because I can no longer bear the burden of watching someone slip away into whatever, financial straits, drug abuse, depression etc.
That does not mean we aren't friends, or I don't support them when they call. I just can no longer be the initiator. I can no longer in good conscience be a by stander watching it transpire.
So I have to step away. I have to move just a little over so that if they fall I am close enough to catch them, but far enough away that I don't aggravate myself to the point of frustration.
Currently I have a few friends that I'm on hiatus with, they need their time and space to figure it out. Some friends I've just had to part ways with because they would not help themselves and surrounded themselves with people who support their drama.
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