Cynthetiq

yeah my parents told me things like that too, and when I asked for what they promised, it wasn't there.

misogynist never. I think you need to look up what that word means because that is definitely not me. Realist. Yes, bagging on people? No, I don't bag on people, I'm telling you and other these things because they are the honest truth about life. I can only shine the light on the path, you have to walk down it. If you choose to not walk down it, then that is your choice. You reap what you sow. Sow nothing you get nothing.

While you choose to not do certain things those are your choices and I respect those, but at the same time you have to accept the responsibilty of those choices. You choose not to work, then you have to live under the roof and rule of someone else. I could not live under someone's rules I had to make my own way. You think I did not complain like you are? I did, and every single person told me the same thing, "GET OUT OF THE HOUSE IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT."

You don't like the situation you are in, you feel lied to, misreprented, et al. then you have to do something to change it. I did not like the way my father treated me as a kid. I don't like the way that he misrepresented certain things like paying for college, my car, etc. He said he would and they didn't as they ran out of money due to their own bad planning. I paid for a majority of my college on my own. Because I did that it allowed them to recover financially and give money to my sister's education.

I didn't want to hear what he had to say nor do what he wanted me to do and the reality of it is simple. I had to make sure that I supported myself 100%. My wife, I respect her deeply because while she was in a situation she had no control over she took control as to what she could and did what she wanted and needed to do.

My last missive on this because it's obvious to me that you'd rather complain about it than do something about it.

Good luck.