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Why did you stick around after the Butterflies went away? The answer to that should tell you if you should get married or not. Did you just stick around for the sex or to avoid confrontation? Or do you genuinely enjoy being with her and your are both best friends?
Love is a choice. There's a basic current of love if you are right for each other but that everyday kind of love that's there even when you don't have butterflys or when they leave their toothpaste in the sink. That's the kind of love you have to choose to have. Your SO is going to piss you off sometimes but if you can still choose to love them, emotionally and actively. THEN you are right for each other.
Love changes, it grows - not in the number of butterflys in your stomach but in it's consistency and inner strength. It's not always easily recognizable. It's when the hardship hits and you get through it and still want to be with your SO that you realize - "That was love keeping me in the game."
Hubby has a serious accident - I didn't want to be anywhere else. Even when we came home and he was so terribly cranky because he had a migrane for over a month - I didn't want to be anywhere else (except for a momentary break). Hubby and I had a falling out and talked about divorce - neither one of us wanted to quit. We talked through things, worked out our differences and decided to love each other and stay together. When I decided I was going to love him anyway is when I realized I already loved him. It sounds wierd but it works.
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"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma. 
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