PhatnS2pid

I'll deal with YOU first. A lot of people lack the ability to just go "HEY <insert name>, would you like to <insert activity> with me <insert time frame>?", and for numerous reasons (cluelessness being a big one). Being an ass and going "never had a chance? yaddah yaddah, you should have blah blah" and communicating with a holier-than-thou tone helps no one.

-edit: Just re-read that and realised it came off as a little harsh. I'm not trying to attack you, just giving a little differing point-of-view criticism (but I'm not going to change my text either ). Just wanted to explain a bit so I didn't inadvertantly start a fight with you.

As far as "it's even better when you do something about it", no, it's not. In a small number of cases it is, but most people have horribly overblown expectations of others and of situations and become disappointed as all hell (assuming she says yes) once their dream is realised.

Now as for the topic poster, "never meant to be" is not the kind of phrase I would ever use. It implies that there's some higher power controlling your ability to get it on with people. I'm a religious man, but using fate in any context other than a poetic one normally just leaves people room for excuses and easy cop-outs.

I'd say what another person said in that if you can, try to contact her again and see what she says. Since you know each other a bit, it should hopefully not be too difficult. If you either can't or don't want to for some reason, to get over her, you COULD use rationalization (cop-outs) such as that fate idea you threw out there, but again, I'm not a big fan. I'd say focus on the present and future, and check out other prospects for your affections. Even if you don't find any right away, you'll at least be keeping that aspect of yourself occupied away from thoughts of her.