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Rodney · 05-20-2004, 05:06 PM

Nearly all my friends who got married, stayed married. We all lived with people, sometimes for years, and broke up with them, too, but when we did get married it generally stuck. But by then we were all experienced people who knew who we were, what we wanted, what we needed from a partner, and what we had to offer them.

Translation: to increase the odds, marry no earlier than 25-30. A lot of people, including me, don't really know themselves until then or later. And if two people who don't know themselves get married, what happens a few years later when one or both of them realizes what they _really_ want out of life is something the other isn't prepared to give them?

Sure, people get married younger and make it stick. But the more experience you have, the more likely both of you will be making the right decision.

05-20-2004, 05:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	Nearly all my friends who got married, stayed married. We all lived with people, sometimes for years, and broke up with them, too, but when we did get married it generally stuck. But by then we were all experienced people who knew who we were, what we wanted, what we needed from a partner, and what we had to offer them. Translation: to increase the odds, marry no earlier than 25-30. A lot of people, including me, don't really know themselves until then or later. And if two people who don't know themselves get married, what happens a few years later when one or both of them realizes what they _really_ want out of life is something the other isn't prepared to give them? Sure, people get married younger and make it stick. But the more experience you have, the more likely both of you will be making the right decision. Last edited by Rodney; 05-20-2004 at 05:08 PM..