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Journeyman · 05-20-2004, 01:43 PM

Ok, so I went away for college this spring, and when I'm out there I find out that one of my best friend's wife has died (very nice people, neither of them deserved such a fate after less than one year of marriage). Then I actually get home, and find out that one of my favorite JC professors wife has died (who also taught at the JC, and I can tell you she did not deserve to go so young). And then I find out that my above-the-rest favorite JC professor has divorced his wife... because she was cheating on him... for 13 years. I mean, this is the guy that I looked at as giving marriage a good name. Sticking it out and being faithful, good kids, good wife. Now, after having solid proof that she was fucking around on him, the court still jacked him for a lot that she asked for.

After this, I ran a tally. I'll start by saying that my parents divorced when I was a year old, and got back together (but never remarried) when I was five. They've been together since, with a little brother born thereafter to boot. But still... they're divorced.

On my father's side is one uncle, and one aunt. The uncle is long divorced from his first wife. Never remarried but shacked up with a lovely woman. My aunt, who is currently married, is also divorced from her first husband. So that's my father's side, all divorced.

On my mother's side is one uncle, two aunts. My uncle is divorced, I'm not sure what he's up to now. My aunt who lives out in my state left her husband to shack up with some limp wristed accountant (no seriously, my mother actually noted to me that shaking hands with him was like handling a dead fish). My other aunt... umm, some 3 husbands I think, I'm not really sure what her status is. I found out a few months ago that I have a cousin I never knew about, who's some 9 years old. But yes, many divorces there. So that's my mother's side, all divorced except for the aunt that's fucking some other guy... and come to think of it, they may or may not be divorced. I haven't been updated in a while.

So that's my family, all divorced.

In a country of (the last I heard... and I do mean "heard," I haven't read any definitive statistics) a 54% divorce rate, just by being an American I have a better-than-chance chance of getting divorced, and looking in my family... well the only people that stuck with "till death do you part" were all born prior to 1935 (grandparents, you know).

All I can say is, What the fuck? This is what I have to look forward to?

05-20-2004, 01:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
Journeyman Like John Goodman, but not. Location: SFBA, California	Scared of Marriage and I'm not even engaged. Ok, so I went away for college this spring, and when I'm out there I find out that one of my best friend's wife has died (very nice people, neither of them deserved such a fate after less than one year of marriage). Then I actually get home, and find out that one of my favorite JC professors wife has died (who also taught at the JC, and I can tell you she did not deserve to go so young). And then I find out that my above-the-rest favorite JC professor has divorced his wife... because she was cheating on him... for 13 years. I mean, this is the guy that I looked at as giving marriage a good name. Sticking it out and being faithful, good kids, good wife. Now, after having solid proof that she was fucking around on him, the court still jacked him for a lot that she asked for. After this, I ran a tally. I'll start by saying that my parents divorced when I was a year old, and got back together (but never remarried) when I was five. They've been together since, with a little brother born thereafter to boot. But still... they're divorced. On my father's side is one uncle, and one aunt. The uncle is long divorced from his first wife. Never remarried but shacked up with a lovely woman. My aunt, who is currently married, is also divorced from her first husband. So that's my father's side, all divorced. On my mother's side is one uncle, two aunts. My uncle is divorced, I'm not sure what he's up to now. My aunt who lives out in my state left her husband to shack up with some limp wristed accountant (no seriously, my mother actually noted to me that shaking hands with him was like handling a dead fish). My other aunt... umm, some 3 husbands I think, I'm not really sure what her status is. I found out a few months ago that I have a cousin I never knew about, who's some 9 years old. But yes, many divorces there. So that's my mother's side, all divorced except for the aunt that's fucking some other guy... and come to think of it, they may or may not be divorced. I haven't been updated in a while. So that's my family, all divorced. In a country of (the last I heard... and I do mean "heard," I haven't read any definitive statistics) a 54% divorce rate, just by being an American I have a better-than-chance chance of getting divorced, and looking in my family... well the only people that stuck with "till death do you part" were all born prior to 1935 (grandparents, you know). All I can say is, What the fuck? This is what I have to look forward to?