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End User · 05-20-2004, 07:08 AM

I need some advice from the people who have been married, or in a relationship for a reasonably significant amount of time.

My situation is that I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years. Being 25 years young, 7 years is a damn long time.
Anyway, as friends around me start getting married, starting families etc, pressure is starting to mount for the two of us to tie the knot.
Herein lies the problem. I am not afraid of commitment. I just dont think I've found the right woman to commit to.
I dont love her. A few months/years into the relationship, I thought there was something there, that she could potentially be 'The One', but a few more years on, and it's clear she isn't.
I mean, she's great, we hang out everyday, get along really well etc, but I dont love her. She doesn't inspire me, she no longer gives me butterflies, nothing she does makes my heart race.
What I want to know is do these types of feelings wear off with time and familiarity, or is there an emotion so strong and lasting and beautiful that each day you wake up next to them is like the first? Should I break it off to go in search of eternal happiness, or will I be happier in the arms of familiarity?
Can love really last forever, or is it stuff of fairytales, movies and folklore?

05-20-2004, 07:08 AM	#1 (permalink)
End User Insane Location: Sydney, Australia	Does Love really last forever? I need some advice from the people who have been married, or in a relationship for a reasonably significant amount of time. My situation is that I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years. Being 25 years young, 7 years is a damn long time. Anyway, as friends around me start getting married, starting families etc, pressure is starting to mount for the two of us to tie the knot. Herein lies the problem. I am not afraid of commitment. I just dont think I've found the right woman to commit to. I dont love her. A few months/years into the relationship, I thought there was something there, that she could potentially be 'The One', but a few more years on, and it's clear she isn't. I mean, she's great, we hang out everyday, get along really well etc, but I dont love her. She doesn't inspire me, she no longer gives me butterflies, nothing she does makes my heart race. What I want to know is do these types of feelings wear off with time and familiarity, or is there an emotion so strong and lasting and beautiful that each day you wake up next to them is like the first? Should I break it off to go in search of eternal happiness, or will I be happier in the arms of familiarity? Can love really last forever, or is it stuff of fairytales, movies and folklore? __________________ People who have no faults are terrible!