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What gets to me the most is the stubborn refusal to accept any help, despite the constant attention craving and inaction. For instance, when I offer to let her talk to me, and she says she wants a therapist, and then I offer to help her find one, and then she says she meant me.
Or when I get bombarded with her claims that everything's her fault, or that I've got it better than her, or that she should just grow up, or that she doesn't want to say something because I'll feel bad. All these mind games and second-guessing just drive me nuts. I don't want to read 'im trying to tell u that ur waht im living for' after only a year of an alread-rocky relationship. She is not the only thing I live for, she's a part of that, and I shouldn't have to feel guilty or bad for having a family, or friends, or study to do.
And I suppose I should perhaps just accept it as 'female nature', but I don't want to be treated like an enemy.
I want to help her, but I don't want to be the sole source of ALL her self-confidence. I don't want to feel guilty for spending time with my family or studying for exams or hanging out with friends.
What the hell does one say when you give a hypothetical: "It would be absurd for me to tell you to quit your job and your degree and leave your family and all your friends, just because I told you to", to which she responds "I would do all that if you told me to."
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