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Gilson · 05-13-2004, 12:38 PM

I don't really know if I'd call it a fetish, but that's the best word I could come up with for it. Basically, she finally tells me (after 6 years together, mind you) that she's got a thing for being dominated and bitten on the neck. I'm imagining that this isn't all that uncommon of a desire. The neck's pretty sensitive, so it's either going to hurt or feel really good, just depends on the person... She's not really into hardcore BDSM or anything... I'm having to try to convince her that she's not a total freak for her to want me to tie her up a bit. She obviously digs the idea, but she's embarassed about it.

Anyway, here's my dilema(s)... She had shoulder surgery a few years ago, and she's not able to raise her right arm straight over her head, and she can't really put it at a right angle facing out to the side and upwards, either, so the two common sorts of tie-up positions aren't really an option (spread eagled and hands above the head.) Any ideas on positions, strategic use of furniture and the like? She'd be able to put both arms behind her back and have them tied near the top of her butt, but that's about all I can come up with. I'm assuming you guys know better.

Now, she's probably more into the submissive thing than I'm in to the dominant thing, but it's not like I find the idea offensive... I don't think she wants me to boss her around or degrade her or anything like that, so how would one go about setting up an atmosphere of me being in control? I've never given it a lot of thought, so I'm a little light on ideas. The only thing I was able to come up with that I'd like to do given the whole situation is expand on the anal play. Again, she's self-conscious about it, but she really enjoys using a little freebie butt-plug that came with some porn we ordered once, she just refuses to admit it, and says "No" all the time when I ask if she wants it. I know she digs it, though, because the orgasms she has on the occasions that it's in there are way more intense.

So, basically what I'm looking for are ideas on a little light domination that doesn't involve whips/chains, degridation, that sort of thing. Might be a bizzare situation, I don't know, but it's the one I'm faced with.

05-13-2004, 12:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Gilson Upright	Wife's vampire fetish I don't really know if I'd call it a fetish, but that's the best word I could come up with for it. Basically, she finally tells me (after 6 years together, mind you) that she's got a thing for being dominated and bitten on the neck. I'm imagining that this isn't all that uncommon of a desire. The neck's pretty sensitive, so it's either going to hurt or feel really good, just depends on the person... She's not really into hardcore BDSM or anything... I'm having to try to convince her that she's not a total freak for her to want me to tie her up a bit. She obviously digs the idea, but she's embarassed about it. Anyway, here's my dilema(s)... She had shoulder surgery a few years ago, and she's not able to raise her right arm straight over her head, and she can't really put it at a right angle facing out to the side and upwards, either, so the two common sorts of tie-up positions aren't really an option (spread eagled and hands above the head.) Any ideas on positions, strategic use of furniture and the like? She'd be able to put both arms behind her back and have them tied near the top of her butt, but that's about all I can come up with. I'm assuming you guys know better. Now, she's probably more into the submissive thing than I'm in to the dominant thing, but it's not like I find the idea offensive... I don't think she wants me to boss her around or degrade her or anything like that, so how would one go about setting up an atmosphere of me being in control? I've never given it a lot of thought, so I'm a little light on ideas. The only thing I was able to come up with that I'd like to do given the whole situation is expand on the anal play. Again, she's self-conscious about it, but she really enjoys using a little freebie butt-plug that came with some porn we ordered once, she just refuses to admit it, and says "No" all the time when I ask if she wants it. I know she digs it, though, because the orgasms she has on the occasions that it's in there are way more intense. So, basically what I'm looking for are ideas on a little light domination that doesn't involve whips/chains, degridation, that sort of thing. Might be a bizzare situation, I don't know, but it's the one I'm faced with.