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Gilson · 05-13-2004, 12:38 PM

I don't really know if I'd call it a fetish, but that's the best word I could come up with for it. Basically, she finally tells me (after 6 years together, mind you) that she's got a thing for being dominated and bitten on the neck. I'm imagining that this isn't all that uncommon of a desire. The neck's pretty sensitive, so it's either going to hurt or feel really good, just depends on the person... She's not really into hardcore BDSM or anything... I'm having to try to convince her that she's not a total freak for her to want me to tie her up a bit. She obviously digs the idea, but she's embarassed about it.

Anyway, here's my dilema(s)... She had shoulder surgery a few years ago, and she's not able to raise her right arm straight over her head, and she can't really put it at a right angle facing out to the side and upwards, either, so the two common sorts of tie-up positions aren't really an option (spread eagled and hands above the head.) Any ideas on positions, strategic use of furniture and the like? She'd be able to put both arms behind her back and have them tied near the top of her butt, but that's about all I can come up with. I'm assuming you guys know better.

Now, she's probably more into the submissive thing than I'm in to the dominant thing, but it's not like I find the idea offensive... I don't think she wants me to boss her around or degrade her or anything like that, so how would one go about setting up an atmosphere of me being in control? I've never given it a lot of thought, so I'm a little light on ideas. The only thing I was able to come up with that I'd like to do given the whole situation is expand on the anal play. Again, she's self-conscious about it, but she really enjoys using a little freebie butt-plug that came with some porn we ordered once, she just refuses to admit it, and says "No" all the time when I ask if she wants it. I know she digs it, though, because the orgasms she has on the occasions that it's in there are way more intense.

So, basically what I'm looking for are ideas on a little light domination that doesn't involve whips/chains, degridation, that sort of thing. Might be a bizzare situation, I don't know, but it's the one I'm faced with.

SixEdxMia · 05-13-2004, 12:43 PM

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Gilson · 05-13-2004, 12:46 PM

Heh, should be interesting... I wonder what on earth would be so inappropriate that it couldn't get posted HERE!

la petite moi · 05-13-2004, 02:37 PM

Heh. I myself used to really like biting- less now. I think light domination would just include being a little more agressive now and then. But hey, I don't know you or your wife.

fallenangel · 05-13-2004, 02:41 PM

you could try tying her up over a coffee table *nods in thanks to Wayside* as in she is basically laying on top in crouching position, arms and legs tied around the leg posts. I hope it works out, it's really great that you're open to trying this and not making her feel awkward about it. That's what's kept me from saying a lot of things i would like to try...

i8one2 · 05-13-2004, 06:02 PM

READ and ask questions, thats how I started. I didn't have a clue about that domination/submission stuff...Boy what reading, writing, asking intelligent questions has given me is a completely new lease on life and responsibilities. I went from evaluating what was missing in my life to listening, I mean really listening to what others had to say. And when I found the person, actually 2 very fine people I could have an adult and open conversation with, I began to get it!

What you ms is telling you has nothing to do with being a prick, bossing you around in the conventional sense, but she is letting you know she would love to bond with you in a complete and udder new sense of the term BOND. There is a feeling deep within her that was to release herself to you. This can be bedroom time or much much more. That I can't tell you, but its that BOND she wants/needs. Now that a great area to have a conversation about. There are just some great and wonderful places on the net to at least get more info on if you which.

Once you have that BONDING thing discussion and you're still contemplating going the route you mentioned, feel free to drop a line and I can certainly get you headed in the right direction.

Good luck, and the first thing to a great and strong relationships is strong and completely honest discussion of needs.

Seer666 · 05-13-2004, 09:36 PM

Well, arms tied straight down along the sides works well. Leaves everything open. Wrap the rope around the midsection and loop it around the wrists to secure them. Also, arms crossed over the chest works well, if you don't mind access to the breasts being a bit restricted. One of my exgirlfriends also had shoulder problems we had to work around. My fav is lashing the wrists to the ankles. Forces the ass up in the air in the most apealing way, and I am an ass man. They just pretty much rest on there knees that way. There are lots of ways around the shoulder thing. Just make sure you you try a few of the postions out with a very loosly tied rope to find which one is most comfertable for her, and if you are going to play that way, make sure you got a safe word set up and any and all limets are set before hand. Have fun.

05-13-2004, 12:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Gilson Upright	Wife's vampire fetish I don't really know if I'd call it a fetish, but that's the best word I could come up with for it. Basically, she finally tells me (after 6 years together, mind you) that she's got a thing for being dominated and bitten on the neck. I'm imagining that this isn't all that uncommon of a desire. The neck's pretty sensitive, so it's either going to hurt or feel really good, just depends on the person... She's not really into hardcore BDSM or anything... I'm having to try to convince her that she's not a total freak for her to want me to tie her up a bit. She obviously digs the idea, but she's embarassed about it. Anyway, here's my dilema(s)... She had shoulder surgery a few years ago, and she's not able to raise her right arm straight over her head, and she can't really put it at a right angle facing out to the side and upwards, either, so the two common sorts of tie-up positions aren't really an option (spread eagled and hands above the head.) Any ideas on positions, strategic use of furniture and the like? She'd be able to put both arms behind her back and have them tied near the top of her butt, but that's about all I can come up with. I'm assuming you guys know better. Now, she's probably more into the submissive thing than I'm in to the dominant thing, but it's not like I find the idea offensive... I don't think she wants me to boss her around or degrade her or anything like that, so how would one go about setting up an atmosphere of me being in control? I've never given it a lot of thought, so I'm a little light on ideas. The only thing I was able to come up with that I'd like to do given the whole situation is expand on the anal play. Again, she's self-conscious about it, but she really enjoys using a little freebie butt-plug that came with some porn we ordered once, she just refuses to admit it, and says "No" all the time when I ask if she wants it. I know she digs it, though, because the orgasms she has on the occasions that it's in there are way more intense. So, basically what I'm looking for are ideas on a little light domination that doesn't involve whips/chains, degridation, that sort of thing. Might be a bizzare situation, I don't know, but it's the one I'm faced with.

05-13-2004, 12:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
SixEdxMia <3 Peetster Location: Peetster's house.	Hmp. Private message me if you like. : ) __________________ Honey,We're home.

05-13-2004, 02:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	you could try tying her up over a coffee table nods in thanks to Wayside as in she is basically laying on top in crouching position, arms and legs tied around the leg posts. I hope it works out, it's really great that you're open to trying this and not making her feel awkward about it. That's what's kept me from saying a lot of things i would like to try... __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

05-13-2004, 06:02 PM	#6 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	READ and ask questions, thats how I started. I didn't have a clue about that domination/submission stuff...Boy what reading, writing, asking intelligent questions has given me is a completely new lease on life and responsibilities. I went from evaluating what was missing in my life to listening, I mean really listening to what others had to say. And when I found the person, actually 2 very fine people I could have an adult and open conversation with, I began to get it! What you ms is telling you has nothing to do with being a prick, bossing you around in the conventional sense, but she is letting you know she would love to bond with you in a complete and udder new sense of the term BOND. There is a feeling deep within her that was to release herself to you. This can be bedroom time or much much more. That I can't tell you, but its that BOND she wants/needs. Now that a great area to have a conversation about. There are just some great and wonderful places on the net to at least get more info on if you which. Once you have that BONDING thing discussion and you're still contemplating going the route you mentioned, feel free to drop a line and I can certainly get you headed in the right direction. Good luck, and the first thing to a great and strong relationships is strong and completely honest discussion of needs. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

05-13-2004, 09:36 PM	#7 (permalink)
Seer666 Oh dear God he breeded Location: Arizona	Well, arms tied straight down along the sides works well. Leaves everything open. Wrap the rope around the midsection and loop it around the wrists to secure them. Also, arms crossed over the chest works well, if you don't mind access to the breasts being a bit restricted. One of my exgirlfriends also had shoulder problems we had to work around. My fav is lashing the wrists to the ankles. Forces the ass up in the air in the most apealing way, and I am an ass man. They just pretty much rest on there knees that way. There are lots of ways around the shoulder thing. Just make sure you you try a few of the postions out with a very loosly tied rope to find which one is most comfertable for her, and if you are going to play that way, make sure you got a safe word set up and any and all limets are set before hand. Have fun. __________________ Bad spellers of the world untie!!! I am the one you warned me of I seem to have misplaced the bullet with your name on it, but I have a whole box addressed to occupant.

05-13-2004, 12:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
Gilson Upright	Heh, should be interesting... I wonder what on earth would be so inappropriate that it couldn't get posted HERE!

05-13-2004, 02:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Heh. I myself used to really like biting- less now. I think light domination would just include being a little more agressive now and then. But hey, I don't know you or your wife.