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Originally posted by Cynthetiq
As far as living with him, if you are going to live with him IMHO you should be moving in with him because you want to not as an escape.
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THIS is SOOOOO important. My parents were a lot like you sound. I wanted to escape. This is why I married hubby in the first place. It caused us so many problems in our relationship later on. We've worked past it but it got us started on the wrong foot.
As to the rest of things Cythetiq sounds right to me. Look at ALL your options. I'm sure you don't see everything. Talk to a career counselor at school as well. They have a lot of experience and can give you some impartial advice.
Look into jobs. I'm sure there's lots more out there than you realize. Talk to people, get references, advice. Even if you end up flipping hamburgers for summer - It's only a stepping stone. Getting a better job is easier if you are already employed and it doesn't matter where you are employed. Just working a bum waitress job shows that you are willing to do what's necessary and work hard. Any employer appreciates that. When you don't have any job the employers look at you and think "Hmmm, what's wrong? Why Can't she find work? Does she not show up, does she ...?" You get the picture. Everyone has to start somewhere. Usually it's at the bottom.
I agree it would be less stressful in the here and now to move out. What about the long term? 5 years from now? When you graduate maybe? You would have a degree under your belt. Gainful employment would be much easier to find, and you can move out to wherever you want to go - not just SO's place.
Another question to ask yourself - Why haven't you made the move yet? Is there something in your subconsious telling you it wouldn't be wise or is it just cause you hesistate to disrupt the status quo?