maleficent

I watched a friend go thru a very bitter divorce and it's affected the children very much. Whatever the reasons are for the split, don't let it fester, kids aren't stupid, they can see. Hatred between spouses is tough for kids, they want to love mommy and daddy, but feel guilty about loving mommy when daddy hates mommy. Whatever your feels for your soon to be ex (STBX) get past them as quickly as you can and get on with your own lives.

Work out the custody agreements with a lawyer, sooner rather than later, custody battles get really really ugly and the only ones who get hurt in all the mud slinging -- are the children.

If your STBX is amenable, take the boy out for a boys day out, and show him that you will still be there for him (if you indeed will) Telling him none of this is his fault, wont do much, but he's old enoughto udnerstand that sometimes people just can't be friends anymore and can't be together anymore -- talk to him, be honest, but use language he can understand.

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