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Cynthetiq · 05-12-2004, 06:32 AM

Apply to the other schools so that you have options. Check out scholarships, fellowships, grants, and student loans.

As far as your major, French. Okay, that sounds great. Successful? What does that mean to you? What does that mean to them? Now, with a Degree in French, what job can you get to apply it? Are you just using that major because you like French? You have to think more than just today, and more than just tomorrow but take a little effort into thinking about the following week and the following month. The reason is because they work hand in hand.

You say that you cannot get a job because of this or because of that, someone is not hiring etc. But if you had to survive you would find a job. It may not be glamorous or great, but it pays money for time spent. If you had another mouth to feed you would find a way to feed it. How do I know this? Because there are other people who aren't you who are doing more with less. Every time I think that I'm having a hard time with something I remind myself that there's a family of 4 trying to do the same thing with 1/2 of my salary and working 2-4 jobs total.

Now if you keep status quo for whatever reason. You will have to make some adjustments. Your parents house your parents rules. But if you fund your own education, they don't have much say in that part of your world. The more you take it onto your own shoulders the less they have to say on the matters in your life. That's the purpose of my Are You Your Own Person? thread. Inspired by you and another person griping about their situation that they are in and have no control and have little or few options.

Truly you need to find a different outlet for your frustration. Your BF can only take so much of it, but at the same time, he too needs to adjust and accept a bit of it. If you can't change it, then don't bitch about it. It does little to change the situation but just irritates ALL the individuals.

As far as living with him, if you are going to live with him IMHO you should be moving in with him because you want to not as an escape.

05-12-2004, 06:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	Apply to the other schools so that you have options. Check out scholarships, fellowships, grants, and student loans. As far as your major, French. Okay, that sounds great. Successful? What does that mean to you? What does that mean to them? Now, with a Degree in French, what job can you get to apply it? Are you just using that major because you like French? You have to think more than just today, and more than just tomorrow but take a little effort into thinking about the following week and the following month. The reason is because they work hand in hand. You say that you cannot get a job because of this or because of that, someone is not hiring etc. But if you had to survive you would find a job. It may not be glamorous or great, but it pays money for time spent. If you had another mouth to feed you would find a way to feed it. How do I know this? Because there are other people who aren't you who are doing more with less. Every time I think that I'm having a hard time with something I remind myself that there's a family of 4 trying to do the same thing with 1/2 of my salary and working 2-4 jobs total. Now if you keep status quo for whatever reason. You will have to make some adjustments. Your parents house your parents rules. But if you fund your own education, they don't have much say in that part of your world. The more you take it onto your own shoulders the less they have to say on the matters in your life. That's the purpose of my Are You Your Own Person? thread. Inspired by you and another person griping about their situation that they are in and have no control and have little or few options. Truly you need to find a different outlet for your frustration. Your BF can only take so much of it, but at the same time, he too needs to adjust and accept a bit of it. If you can't change it, then don't bitch about it. It does little to change the situation but just irritates ALL the individuals. As far as living with him, if you are going to live with him IMHO you should be moving in with him because you want to not as an escape. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!