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Originally posted by Jennteel
Well the boy she is going ga-ga over has been treating her like shit for the past few days because she turned him down because I told her NO... Now he won't speak to her at all.
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It sounds like he's obviously not mature enough to handle this. Her directing anger at you over HIS reaction is not mature either. Granted there are always these games between young people but do you think he'd be all fine and dandy if she turned him down about sex? I mean she just turned him down about being a couple, sex would be more of an ego blow.
She needs to be a little more discerning about the boys she wants to date. I think on a personal level she's not showing the maturity necessary to be selecting dating partners that as she grows older are potential sex partners.
Someone like this boy who uses withdrawel to "punish" the other person is a dangerous thing. Try to teach her what are good qualities to look for in a guy. Have an open conversation about what she desires and wants in a guy and then add your own little comments or ask her why she thinks those qualities are important. Helping her develop a mature attitude about guys will be an important step to opening the door for her on the dating scene.
Personally I don't think most girls are mature enough emotionally to handle dating until 16. I know for some people that may be old but mind you I said MOST. This is based on what I've seen when I taught highschoolers - not on personal experience. I didn't date until I was 19 just because I didn't WANT to date. I was into other stuff then.
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