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Originally posted by noahfor
How do you keep the feelings in a relationship? Obviously, people become desensitized to things. When I eat chicken tikka masala it certainly isn't as good as it was the first time, but that's food. I think it's bullshit that feelings should dwindle in a relationship just because one gets used to the other person. When I kiss my girlfriend, or hug her, or have sex with her, it's nothing more than physical. I don't feel anything. I hardly ever feel anything for her, but I like her consciously you know, but that isn't enough. I need to feel. I don't want my relationship to end because it is a victim of desensitization. It is too important, even though it doesn't feel that way. I can do without the tastyness of the food.
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I don't know about keeping
feelings fresh in a relationship after it has been going for some time... Feelings come and go, my friend. What matters is whether you are committed to make the relationship work in spite of those feelings.
Even though you're not married, you should cultivate the attitude that you're here to make the relationship work through thick and thin... in good times
and in bad times. But never ever ever depend solely on the feelings of happiness to determine whether a relationship is worth staying in or not.