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Originally posted by sexymama
It takes work -- the overwhelming feelings go away and the rest takes work. The feelings will ebb and flow. It becomes a choice at this point to make love a "verb" or to back out. It does concern me that you say the feelings have completely disappeared -- that I would analysize if I were you; but if you mean they are simply not as strong, welcome to reality.
Lebell puts it really well. He says that having a relationship is like owning a car. You don't buy it and ignore it. You change the oil, rotate the tires, etc. What are you doing to care for this relationship and keep it "driving well?"
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Thanks. I don't really know if the feelings have completely disappeared. I am withdrawing from Effexor, and my emotions and relationships have just gone to shit. I feel like just because they have gone away I should not end the relationship. I know that there are so many things about her that I should like, and for some reason I can't feel that I like them. I like what you said about making love a verb. I've always thought it was important to find ways in which I have shown that I am in love, rather than just sitting back and letting emotions tell me, but still everyone needs to feel it.