See what happens when I don't have comp access for a week?
And yes, this is mostly to defend myself . . .
A couple of points to clarify, part of the seperation and the reason we went through with the divorce is that my ex ran off to California to be with this guy when my son was 2 months old, I raised them by myself for most of the next year and I still have sole custody but I can't bring myself to enforce it because she really does care about the kids in some warped way. My kids do not and will not know that I ever have any problems with their mother or their stepfather because I remember what that feels like, I still go through it on an almost daily basis, and I refuse to do that to them. For most of the time since we've been divorced niether my ex or her new husband have been capable of actually taking care of the kids by themselves, they actually owe me quite a large sum of money that I've loaned them to keep up with their bills. They also allow the full range of negative reinforcement with their discipline, which is probably my single largest complaint of all, they're not parenting, they're coddling.
Now, before any of you try to kill me, you all make excellent points, he does play a roll in their lives and that's not something that I can change without creating a horrible nightmare situation that would only patch my ego and make life miserable for them.
I guess what it boils down to is me bitching about him getting that moniker when he doesn't do any of the things that would allow for him earning it.
Thanks for listening to me rant