Rlyss

If it were me I'd find someone I can actually see and touch. Perhaps I am shallow, but at this stage of my life I want someone I can actually <i>be</i> with. And I admit I'm being selfish here: I'm not prepared to spend thousands of dollars on travelling across the other side of the world just in case it might work out.

If she wants to come to you, by all means let her.

Think about it - are you cooler on the internet? With that time to think and not worry about your looks, and all that, do you think your online personality is any different to your real one? Obviously I don't know so I can't tell you, but if you think you're different, then you have to realize that if you meet her she's going to pick up on that. And vice versa. She might be totally different in real life, without the security of sitting behind a computer. She may or not be a 55 year old man, but she may be quite a bit different in real life than how she is on the Internet.

Think of the friends you know in real life that you also talk to online. Are they different? You might not be the same as you are online.