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Originally posted by nwlinkvxd
It isn't necessarily "once a cheater, always a cheater." From my own experiences I'd say it should be more like "once you've cheated, it's just easier to cheat again." You can definitely control your cheating tendencies. It just takes integrity that most of humanity doesn't have.
To the original post: you did NOTHING wrong. The diary was already opened as you said, and it was explicit information that was relevant to your relationship.
Honestly given her previous behavior I would have either nagged the hell out of her to tell me what was going on, or I'd have searched for something, such as the diary. However, I'm naturally a distrusting person.
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He personally has no experiences with cheating. He is referring to me. I cheated on my ex-boyfriend two weeks before we broke up (we knew things were going downhill). Keep in mind, as well, that around this time I was breaking down mentally (eating disorders, taking pills...etc.). I told this to nwlinkvxd before we even really got into our relationship. MY opinion, and I actually HAVE THE EXPERIENCE TO SAY THIS, is that given that I realised my mistake and how cheating can really screw you up...It would be HARDER to cheat again.
Then again, that is me. I grow attached to people very easily, so cheating is not necessarily an easy thing for me to do consciously.
After only six months in a relationship and she was cheating? I think I would take that as a sign that she isn't very committed in the long run, at least.