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Originally posted by ratbastid
Okay, you have a confession to make. You're asking her for total honesty when YOU'RE lying. And then you're surprised when you don't trust her response. 
You have to come clean about the diary. HAVE to. NOT optional. Explain how it happened, just like you explained to us. Seems fairly innocent to me, but she may not feel the same way. Bottom line is, you're going to have to apologize for violating her privacy like that. Because that lie is now gnawing at the core of your relationship, making trust absolutely impossible.
What will happen after you've cleaned that up? Probably a really honest conversation about what's going on in your relationship. You'll have space to talk about the things that have been frustrating you, and she'll have an opportunity to say all the same. You'll be a hundred times stronger for it, in the end.
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ratbastid said it better than i could've. you really don't have much choice unless you want to have a "close relationship" based on lies and deceit