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Originally posted by jumprun
I think I'm doing everything that I can.
I've suggested that she take some time away from the family - something that she has wanted to do for a very long time but could never do. She had a child in her early 20s and has never really had any alone time to spend on herself.
I think that her lost love is a symptom of being frustrated over not having any control in her life. Her son has to spend time with his father who is mentally abusive and there is nothing she can do about that.
I think she's just at her wits end, feeling like she has absolutely no control over her life - and her trying to end our relationship is a way to exert some control.
I'm willing to do what ever it takes to save our marriage, but as I've said to her, the ultimate decision is her's.
I think she needs to figure out what can she live with:
1. Splitting up our family to satisfy her need for self control.
2. Staying together and trying to find a way to live with the idea of not being able to put herself first.
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So why did she have to choose a divorce? That's not going to make her life any easier.
Does it have to do with you? If not, then why is she leaving..........
Does she realize what an effect this will have on your children???? That's what really matters most.