04-27-2004, 06:13 AM
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My future is coming on
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Originally posted by ratbastid
Is this relationship worth going to bat for? Worth fighting for?
If the answer is yes, then the next question is what are you waiting for? Are you going to roll over and give up? Or are you going to stand up like a man, give her absolutely everything and anything she needs, and make the relationship work?
There was a time, maybe about a year and a half ago, that lurkette and I were very close to ending it. We had a no bullshit conversation in which breaking up (and everything that comes with it in a then 6-year marriage) was very much on the table. I can't really speak for her, but what I saw was that I hadn't been being a husband for a long, long time. I hadn't taken care of her, been attentive to her, respected and fulfilled her needs... In short, I'd taken her for granted.
By the end of that conversation, our marriage was stronger than it had ever been, and it's stayed that strong ever since. We're now both very, very clear that there is NO challenge life can throw at us that we can't face and conquer. And we're out LOOKING for challenges now, because we know they're an opportunity for us to grow.
That's all this is: a challenge, and an opportunity to grow. It's also an opportunity to roll over and be a victim to life. The choice is entirely yours.
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I love that man.
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