imkeen

Have any of you tackled having a different parenting style than your spouse? I tend to try to reason through everything, but haning around my wife, who often uses the if-it-doesn't-fit-get-the-bigger-hammer approach to parenting, I've been having more of a temper, which really, really bothers me. I'm trying to demonstrate and show how rationalization with kids really does work and barking orders isn't the way to get things accomplished with the rugrats, but I'm having diffulties keeping a rational conversation about this with my spouse.

I'm trying to keep myself calm in times of crisis with two kids (the third isn't old enough to be trouble or a victim of this issue yet), but its a challenge. The kids, 4 and 10 years old, seem bent on ticking each other off every moment they see each other, so I try to get in the middle and be the ref. They do love each other and care for each other, and even get along...as long as the 10 yr old is in charge. I'm getting back to my calm, rational self, but its tough when I'm battling two kids and a spouse.

Any ideas or identification with my plight would be helpful! :-)

Tnx!