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Getting into an affair is pretty easy. Getting out unscathed is bloody hard. I'd suggest that you are looking for something that you don't currently find in your marriage. I suppose it's a question of whether you and your wife can work things out so you feel the companionship you need. I was in a similar position to you about 7 years ago. No kids to complicate the situation for me though. In the end I realised that the person I was having the affair with was not perfect, but it was just a case of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. For me (and my wife who found out all about it) it was a wake up call that we had issues that needed to be sorted out. I had to decide to stay or go and she had to decide if it was worth changing things for me given what I'd done. A friend of mine at the time told me to make a decision and stick to it. He said it wouldn't be worth waiting another 15 years and then realising I was miserable. In the end I stayed and we sorted everything out and I've never been happier. But it was a case of choosing one or the other and then making it work.
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