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Originally posted by kurty[B]
Ding Ding Ding, think we have a winner. I hate to have to do it, but quite often friends and close-friends will just NOT get along with your mate.
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OK, now realistically...
Your friends want to be around you and hang out, and you want to be with your boyfriend. You may be able to keep them separate for a little bit, but fact is, there are going to be ALOT of times that both your friends and your boyfriend will want to be with you at the exact same time, and your birthday party is the perfect example.
Your boyfriend was wrong...dead wrong. This party was for YOU, not for him, not for him to have a good time, for you to have a good time. He needs to face the fact that all the people in your life (Whether he likes them or not) are in your life. He doesn't have to be really nice to them, just be tolerant when they are around. Your friends need to do the same thing, just be tolerant of him because he is in your life.
If your friends are ignoring you now, it's because they feel like a loyalty boundry has been crossed, even though it wasn't you that wasn't inviting them to the party. They will come around eventually, but your boyfriend really messed up and put distance between you and them.
I've never been one to tell someone to dump someone else. All I can say is that you need to assess if this situation is bad enough to warrant breaking it off with him.